I See You
When You Are Carrying Most Of The Weight Alone
Because this is something I see again and again.
And it hurts in a way that isn’t always easy to talk about.
I See You
I see you when family members refuse to help.
Or when “helping” means telling you how you should be doing things differently.
From a distance.
From a short visit.
I see you when advice comes from people who are not living the day-to-day reality.
The confusion.
The constant decisions.
I see you when people say,
“Why don’t you…”
as if this were a simple problem waiting for the right solution.
I see you carrying the responsibility —
and sometimes the criticism —
at the same time.
And I see the strength it takes to keep showing up anyway.
If you’re the one carrying most of it right now…
I see you.

This reflection is part of the I See You series for dementia caregivers
• When It Feels Like Too Much
• Living With the Relentless
• They Don’t See What I Live With
• The Guilt No One Talks About