Let me set the scene:
You’re knee-deep in the day’s third round of “where are my pants,” there’s a trail of tissues leading from the living room to the bathroom, and someone (not naming names) is convinced the neighbor is an imposter again. You’re tired. They’re confused. The coffee went cold an hour ago.
In short? Chaos. Classic Tuesday.
But here’s the secret I’ve learned: sometimes, the tiniest shift can change the tone of the whole moment.
Enter: The Sock Shuffle.
Not a metaphor.
Not a Pinterest craft.
Just… a tiny, joyful dance break.
Step 1: Socks Optional, Music Required
Pick a song — any song — that lifts your spirit. Maybe it’s Ella Fitzgerald. Maybe it’s ABBA. Maybe it’s that one piano piece your loved one always hums along to. You don’t need a speaker setup. Just your phone will do.
(Pro tip: Create a “Foggy Day Dance Party” playlist on Spotify and keep it handy.)
Step 2: Invite, Don’t Instruct
Look over at your person. Offer your hand. No expectations, no big declarations. Just:
“Wanna dance for a minute? No pressure — but I’ve got the moves and the socks.”
Sometimes they’ll say yes.
Sometimes they’ll just smile.
Sometimes they’ll wave you off while secretly tapping their toe. All of those responses are wins.
Step 3: Move Like Nobody’s Watching
Shimmy. Sway. Do that weird little two-step you haven’t pulled out since 1993.
Let your shoulders drop. Let your breath slow down. Let your person see your humanness — not your stress.
They might join.
They might watch.
They might roll their eyes and then — surprise! — laugh.
And in that moment?
You’ve created joy. Connection. A spark.
Why It Matters
When dementia clouds everything — logic, language, memory — music can still cut through. So can laughter. So can movement. These “silly little breaks” are actually tiny lifelines for both of you.
Because caregiving isn’t just about doing… it’s about being. Being present. Being playful. Being a soft place to land.
Even in chaos.
Even in socks.
So here’s your challenge:
Pick a song.
Grab a sock.
Start the shuffle.
And if all else fails?
Lip sync dramatically and bow at the end. Dignity is overrated anyway.
With twirls and tea,
Nora 💜